The metaphor of being at the crossroads originates from 4-way street junctions and having a choice as to which way to turn. This moment of suspense is often over-whelming and suspense-filled. Here at the Hairstylist Mentor, we know what encountering personal, business, and creative crossroads feels like and hope to our stylists. Whether you are a beginning, mid-term, or veteran stylist, we all have these precious possibilities. What happens when we reach a crossroads in life and weigh that against what is the “right” thing?
The day has come when you find yourself facing one of the many types of crossroads that hair stylists go through. And chances are, everyone has something to say about it!
At any turning point in your life, you friends, family, and partner will have a lot of opinions about how you should proceed. Some may offer helpful suggestions, while others may drag you down with criticism about your new direction. When so many people are offering you such different ideas, it’s crucial that you know how to filter through their advice and learn who to listen to.
When someone gives you advice, whether you like it or not, ask yourself these three questions:
Does he/she mean well?
If a close friend gives you advice, you can generally know that they mean well. But if someone else gives you advice, especially when it’s counter-intuitive, you really need to think about their motivations. A co-worker might tell you not to take a promotion because they want it. Likewise, a friend might be against your new creative direction because it doesn’t mesh with their own preferences. You just need to make sure that these people are giving you advice to help YOU, not to serve their own interests.
[tweetthis]”Filtering through the advice of others is part of the process of finding your truth.” REBECCA BEARDSLEY[/tweetthis]
Does this advice fit with my lifestyle?
This is an especially important question to ask when you are facing a business crossroads. If you really need the money but a friend is urging you to take a pay cut to pursue a new creative direction, they might not know your financial situation. Or maybe a family member is urging you to go down a new path in your relationship that you aren’t comfortable with from a moral or religious standpoint. So when you receive advice, make sure that it fits your lifestyle in the depth that you know it, not how others perceive your current situation.
Has this person been right before?
A lot of times, the advice you take depends on who is giving it. Someone who has lead you astray in the past probably isn’t the best person to listen to again. On the other hand, a good friend who gives wise advice is a great person to listen to when you are making a big change in your life. Though it’s important to give people a second chance, you need to decide who you trust most and listen to those people.
With these three questions, you will be fully prepared to take the next step in your career knowing that you have taken advantage of everyone’s advice. Remember, career and lifestyle changes are about you, not about who your family or friends want you to be. Take their advice when it fits you, but never change who you are to fit them.
As artists, it’s to be expected. But when it happens to you, its debilitating intensity may come as a very unwelcome surprise.
For stylists, creative burnout is especially difficult. In part, this is due to the prevailing (and infuriating!) misconception that we’re not artists. For some reason, the general public tends to think of us as on par with a mechanic, a waitress, or a cashier. All those are respectable occupations, but few in them consider their work to be an artistic expression.
The beauty industry is competitive and burnouts are frequent. It is difficult for many of us to remember to take care of ourselves amidst the glamorous chaos. Don’t let your lucrative career as a hairstylist or barber fall through the cracks! Many of us have reached a crossroads in our careers where we feel we have had to decide between ourselves or our business. When you reach this point, it’s best to talk to a professional – either a licensed therapist or another veteran beauty guru – who can help you. In the meantime, here are a few tips to keep up your self-care in tumultuous times.
Every industry experiences pitfalls that are unique to that business and the beauty profession is no exception. Two of the primary pitfalls in the beauty industry is the toll it can take on your mental and physical health. If you’re experiencing a crossroads in your career primarily due to physical or mental issues it can be disheartening and even frightening. After all, you chose this profession because you have a passion for beauty and helping others look and feel their best, but now you’re feeling anything but your best.
Just as hair styles come and go, so do seasons of your life. This may seem like just a corny little analogy, but it’s deeply true. No matter what you choose to do with your life, there are always times when things feel like they are changing all too fast around you and even within you. During your career as a hair stylist, you will come to several important crossroads in these three areas of your life: