What what would you say is the biggest issue in our industry that we don’t talk about? My first book Self-Care For Hairdressers: How To Avoid Stress And Burnout, And Step Into The Professional You Were Meant To Be, is finally here! This book is the first in a series and will be an essential for any salon, beauty school, hairdresser, and salon owner library. You probably know it, but may not be able to articulate it. However, I bet you can feel it.
Through my observations and experience as a stylist, owner, and educator, I’ve noticed in the industry that not only are hairdressers the most empathic group of people, but we are also some of the most high strung, perfectionists, egotistical bunch I have ever known. Along with that is a great deal of suffering as well. And most of the time it is silent.
As I have walked in to many a salon, I see it, I feel it, the pressure is real and there is almost a manic quality to the stylists. We work against the clock, we need to creative on the fly, we have to deal with the pressures of reaching our next financial goal, so that we can pay our bills. So much so, we have quit breathing. This frantic quality becomes the norm. That’s right, you normalize the absurd. Then we expect that we will be able to maintain the absurdity through out our careers. We wonder why we snap when our coworker looks at us the wrong way.
There is so much emphasis on getting to the top, and being the best, and yet when you look at those at the top, they are tired, overworked, they seem to lack a sense of balance, and happiness in their lives. I say they, but I speak from personal experience. Life gets out of whack, because then there is the striving to stay on top.
They say you teach what you need to learn and this is true and not true. As I have worked my way to being a National Artist for the #1 beauty brand in the world and a Style Council member, working with the best educators in the country, it is easy for my own self-care to go on the way side. Even so, there are always strategies that I keep on point, like my writing, my walking, taking a few minutes to sit with myself, get together with friends and laugh. I get up earlier than my family to enjoy a few hours alone, before the demands of the day get started.
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However, none of us is perfect. You slip, you fall, this is normal when you are trying to change behaviors that don’t sustain you. Some of you never get started, some of you may even pretend to not care, and act is if there is no tomorrow. One day this will catch up with you. It is unsustainable. And if you really want to make something of yourself, and your career, you will need to do something to change. If you want to last in your career without a thrown out back, or surrender your soul to your clients, you need to start now. Take actions that support your career and personal goals, in the immediate, and long term.
Dream more about the kind of life you want to live, and see what sort of actions, conversations, and ways of being you might need to change to make this dream for your life to come true. Believe me, some of what needs to happen can be quite austere, but let it be okay, if it is truly supporting your goals, and do it joyfully.
Self-Care for Hairdressers was born out of the desire to help you recognize the triggers of stress and burnout, and offer solutions to a very common problem, so common, and yet goes unmentioned in our industry.
To get a taste of what is to come with the book, go ahead and click the free download above. This guide is full of easy things you can do to help yourself feel more connected to yourself, right now. Keep it at the salon, share it with others. Let’s open up discussion about the stressors and share so we can begin to take full responsibility for our lives and know what true happiness is, while giving to others.
I just gave a haircut to a neighboring stylist, and she is a wonderful hairdresser. She is kind, lovely, and very generous to clients. She has a hard time raising her prices, she is solid booked for three months, and her body is in pain. She ponders leaving the industry to find something that would not be as taxing on her. This is real folks. So many hairdressers I speak to that have physical issues, and yet when you ask them, what do they do for themselves, there is silence.
At the end of the day, we all want to make an impact, but until we can make self-care a part of our normal routine, there will be nothing to give, and no one will follow, and there is no personal freedom. We have to evolve, we do not have to do business like we were taught in beauty school. Run like machines until we drop. I’m not talking about not being engaged, I’m talking about self-care.
My personal commitment is to bring about change one hairdresser at a time, so that we keep our hairdressers in tact, and thriving through a long, prosperous career.
Whether you are an old hat at self-care, or a beginner, and have no clue what I am talking about, but are curious, I am sure this book will be of interest to you. Watch for it!
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