Genuine wealth is inseparable from genuine health. This year’s 14-Day Business and Money Challenge has brought this back to mind. In light of our unprecedented times, I think we ought to revisit the meaning of genuine health even more.
A while back I wrote the article, Remarkable Wealth Has Everything To Do With Genuine Health. You can read about it here.
We are all prone to working too hard and getting back into the hamster wheel of the American dream so much so that we can lose sight of the more essential things. Sure, we can work all our lives to make up for lost income during COVID-19 but will it truly make us genuinely wealthy? Or happy?
On the other hand, we can become depressed and anxious about the uncertainty that the pandemic has brought upon all of us. The question now is this, are we taking care of ourselves properly? So much is at stake at the expense of our striving for wealth. Most of the time we risk losing our health in exchange for the elusive genuine wealth.
In my own journey towards building my business and juggling family, self-education, and self-care, I came across the powerful use of positive affirmations.
The Millionaire Course by Marc Allen has changed my life, as I have shared in my previous article. Every day for one of the toughest, emotional years of my life, I wrote down my affirmations in a notebook. These notes to myself served as an incremental movement towards health and wellness. My self-examination left no stone unturned; I reviewed every area of my life, came up with the statements that felt true for me, and reflected what I needed and wanted.
The following is one of the daily affirmations I use from Marc Allen’s book,
“In an easy and relaxed manner, in a healthy and positive way, all the money I want and need is now coming to me, in its own perfect time, for the highest good of all.”
Are you suffering from low self-esteem or self-doubt right now? Are you feeling down or hopeless about the future? Use the power of positive affirmations to get you out of the muck. Affirmations simply work. Once you begin using them, you find they become part of you. You simply find yourself saying these statements as if they have already happened. You are talking to your future self.
But don’t just take my word for it. Here’s what the science behind affirmations says,
“…affirmations have been used to successfully treat people with low self-esteem, depression, and other mental health conditions. And they have been shown to stimulate the areas in our brains that make us more likely to effect positive changes in regard to our health.” (Mindtools.com, 2020)
“ Affirmations have helped thousands of people make important changes in their lives. They work because they have the ability to program your mind into accessing and believing the repeated statements and concepts.” (Clinical Hypnotherapy)
There is a host of information on the internet about affirmations and why they are life-changing. Take advantage of this powerful tool and be proactive in taking control of your overall wellness.
As you prepare for incorporating positive affirmations in your self-care routine, find ways to create a special space and devote time to practice this regularly. Ideally, these should be repeated a few times during the day every day.
If you have no idea where to start, here 6 examples of Affirmations for Women fromthat you can use and tweak as you go along:
- I choose to be happy;
- My life is taking place right here, right now;
- I’m gifted with and surrounded by amazing friends and family;
- I opt to rise above negative feelings and ditch negative thoughts;
- I am resilient, strong, and brave, and I can’t be destroyed;
And here’s one from me;
- My business is overflowing with happy, and loyal clients.
Use this list or create your own. Remember, your words have power. Use it to shape and guide your thinking towards genuine health and wealth will follow. Let me know how it goes for you.
Is Self-Care Just Drama?
Self-care used to be considered hokey or unnecessary fluff. But recent statistics reveal that stress levels of about half of all Americans are getting worse instead of getting better.
Now, large companies, leaders, activists and volunteer organizations see the essential need and benefits of healthy habits and self-care is as necessary, as loving your children.
Obviously, self-care isn’t just melodrama. It is essential for maintaining wellness and self-love. In short, it will keep you healthy and sane.
We, at Up Your Salon Game, have taken it a step further by creating for you a 7- day challenge, and all the necessary support you need is in this downloadable Self-Care Survival Kit.
There are 8 areas of self-care in this guide adapted from habitsforwellbeing.com. We want to make sure that we will take on a holistic approach in the challenge that we have prepared for you. You can use these to jumpstart your self-care routine as you pursue holistic wellness.
What Does Self-Care Mean to You?
What I hope and dream for, is you discovering a new, and deeper relationship with yourself. What would that look like for you?
- more sleep
- showing gratitude
- more nature
- talking to a friend more regularly
- wearing your mask
- time with your husband
- uninterrupted with your child
- being more honest with yourself
- cleaning out one closet
- eating less
- eating more
- taking a lunch
- buying less
- start that meditation practice
- more time with yourself
- prepare your meals
- to name a few.
Completing this challenge means taking your own health and well-being into your own hands.
The 7-day Challenge
Day 1: Physical Self-Care
Eating habits in salon back rooms can be pretty scary. Indulgence comes to mind. It’s like a bunch of vultures whenever food comes out. People stealing each other’s food, eating whatever is quick and easy, or spending money on lunches that leave us feeling bad, because we just blew our budget for meals.
Mindset reset. How you eat can set the tone for your day, and your life?
This is where nurturing yourself has to take priority, if you don’t want health issues down the road.
Eating fresh food can feel like a luxury, particularly in some parts of the country where fresh is not readily available. Choose organic with thin-skinned veggies and fruits, if you can.
When grocery shopping, avoid the middle aisles. These aisles are mostly filled with additive filled foods that do us little good.
Add these enriching oils to your diet:
- olive oil
- avocado oil
- pumpkin seed oil
- flaxseed oil
- Coconut oil for high heat cooking and use with food that benefit from the flavor
Add whole grains to your diet, soaking beans and grains with a couple of tablespoons of vinegar first
Choosing nuts, veggies, hummus, hard boiled egg, veggie smoothie from home, for snacks during the day if you need energy
Lessen your sugar intake. If you do have a sweet tooth, have a piece of dark chocolate, or bake something from home. Fresh is always better
Enjoy nurturing yourself and see what a difference it makes to actually support your health while in the salon.
Day 2: Psychological Self-Care
Okay, take five minutes today and sit with yourself.
Each day, take five more. Keep adding time, until you are up to 30 minutes.
feet on the ground
palms down on your lap
rest your eyes in front of you, or close them
relax your jaw
Now, place your attention on your breath, particularly the out breath.
Whenever your mind gets busy with thoughts, simply say the word to yourself, “Thinking”, and bring your attention back to the out breath.
Meditation practice not only supports your health and well-being, but helps:
- reduce stress
- gain new perspective
- build stress management skills
- help you in the salon with stressful situations
- focus on the present
- increase imagination and creativity
- sleep better
- increase patience
- become more self-aware
- decrease negative emotions
I hope you can see there is everything to gain from sitting…
Day 3: Spiritual Self-Care
Being in nature is another way for us to connect to ourselves, and offers a chance to realign our mind and body. Walking in it, allows for our head to clear the clutter. We get in touch with our heart, our breath, and our bodies.
Everything moves so fast in this world, the need to ground our bodies is crucial to our being able to be present in our lives.
Feel the wind on your face
Feel the dampness on your skin
Smell the dry earth
Listen to all that is going on when you are out there
Let your senses come to life, and bring that to your next consultation.
Enjoy your day!
Day 4: Social Self-Care
Our mental health, particularly as we move into this third spike in the pandemic, is to be nurtured. The need for connection with family and friends is key to our well-being.
We need to remember voicing our concerns, questions, and fears, and calling attention to the grief and sorrow is SO important and needed.
This is self-care.
Zoom with a good friend.
Call a friend.
Write a letter to a friend or family member.
Remember, our kids are watching. Show them what self-care looks like.
Day 5: Financial Self-Care
That is right. Place a moratorium on your shopping for a week. Nothing. Zero.
How many people do you know that spend, spend, spend on expensive clothes, and shoes? Their closets filled, and yet their hearts ache for something deeper. They just can’t get enough to fill the empty space.
The empty space is where the richness lays. Do we dare to feel whatever is there?
This is self-care.
Day 6: Environmental Care
Years ago I mentioned taking a digital detox, and now, it even seems more important.
Our devices can very easily take over our lives in the guise of saving time. But in actuality, adults are spending 10-12 hours a day on their devices! Yikes. And we are setting an example for our kids?
So much screen time can add to:
Depression and anxiety
Chronic back neck pain
Shutting down an hour before bed allows us to slow our minds down and rest our eyes.
Keep screens away from where you eat and sleep.
Time away from our screens allows us to get back in touch with the humans in our lives.
Pick up a book instead. How rare it is to even see a book in someone’s hand? Who knows you may even get through the stack of best sellers near your bed at some point?
Sundays are great days to enjoy a digital detox.
Day 7: Professional Self- Care
Mondays are great days to take a mental or written inventory of where you are in your business.
As you relax today, think about your salon life to figure out where you sell yourself short. Do you undermine your fellow stylists, your manager, the owner, your clients, and most importantly– yourself?
Three points for you to consider here.
- Boundaries are absolutely necessary. They act as your bumper rails as you are out in your salons, they help guide you, and mold your clientele. The stronger and clearer you are, the more people can support you, and your values. Your values will actually be more evident without you even speaking about them if your boundaries are clear.
- Your conversations in the chair ought to be about the client. Be mindful of topics you bring up. Let them lead. Inform yourself about the world
- Communication- clean, honest, no blame. Learn to communicate from the I position rather than You, which inevitably makes people defensive. Always ask your clients permission to take a photo, and you better have a photo release signed and filed when you post on social media