Give Voice to What Needs To Be Said Along The Way

For some, this is easy, for others it may seem like the worst idea ever, as it was for me.  The irony is, what needs to be said sometimes is actually a shout out for your deeper self, to live the life you were meant to live.

The minutia of our day to day can muddle our dream, and mask yearnings for connection, and being heard.  Circumstances can chip away at our self-esteem, and people can get the best of us when we are already feeling less than.

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At one of my lower moments, my world turned upside down, and my whole being underwent a reconstruction.  For some it may be called an awakening, for me it was as if someone came up and grabbed me by my collar and said you will do this most painful task and leave no stone unturned.  After fighting for a bit, and banging my head against the wall a few times, surrendering seemed the only choice, I understood at some level that this was the way to my survival.

I quivered into the process, but I had never been through such emotional, spiritual, psychological and physical pain.  To let go and face my life head on, and everything I thought it was, deconstructed.

No one stands up and says, “Yippee” for this one.  We are usually forced.  Most definitely a choice point.  You could run and hide, and pretend as if everything is okay, or step into it and know that you will be different for it.  The very thing that we hold onto in life is usually the very thing we need to let go of.  And the amount of energy is takes to hold onto this something, is what can contribute to illness, discontent, body pain, relationship struggle, etc.

This rugged journey into the underlife I could not have done alone.  The psychotherapist whom walked with me down this excruciating path, and held the light for me to get to the other side, was no other than an angel.   I will never forget this dear one, who helped me remember my own pure self, the one that was crying to be heard.  Through the intensive process, my self-confidence sprouted and matured, an awareness that I could do anything, that I was brave, smart, and unafraid became this quiet strength.

Never be ashamed to ask for help.  Look for resources in your community, ask your friends, it doesn’t need to be expensive.  What you will discover is the exquisite, vulnerable you, that has much to offer.

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I don’t know if this moment will come for you, some people seem to not have to go through much drama in their lives, but we can’t worry about that.  I’m speaking to those of you who know something is amiss in your world.  Look at your own life.  Face what needs to be faced, otherwise it continues to bang at your door.

Where do you say, “Nope, I’m not going there!”, and walk the other way?  Or, are the loved ones in your life asking you to consider a particular issue, something that is chronic, that you get really angry at when they mention it?

You may feel very righteous about it, but they are asking you to take a look at yourself.  Will you run the other way, or will you honor the messenger?  Understand they are guides pointing you in the direction you need to go, which is inside.

This, my friends, is the path of healing, this is the path to freedom, this is the path of success. You will no success at a much deeper and satisfying level if you can get in there and do the work.  Hairdressers, if you do this work will experience much more joy in what you do, and be more available for the craft, and your clients, you will be leaders.

One of my favorite poems by Mary Oliver, which I read over and over during that time in my life and helped me through.

“The Journey”

One day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
kept shouting
their bad advice —
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
“Mend my life!”
each voice cried.
But you didn’t stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations,
though their melancholy
was terrible.
It was already late
enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do —
determined to save
the only life you could save.”

― Mary Oliver

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